Dating a rules girl
“Whisper in a woman’s ear that you’d love to see her naked and she’ll probably either stiffen and move away slightly, or giggle and blush,” Kerner says.“The way she responds physically provides a wealth of clues.Play by these new rules and you’ll score again and again. NEW: Women checking men out.● Think your zipper’s undone? Using eye-tracking technology, scientists from the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction found that women are actually more likely to have wandering eyes than men.Women not only spent less time looking at a man’s face (when compared with men looking at women); they also moved more quickly onto his other body parts. “So take in her breasts or legs, but don’t dwell on them.” And make the most of your assets, too.Manley is on the same page, but his reasoning is more economical: “Guys still [usually] make more money than women, so they should offer to pay, regardless of whoever asked out whom,” he says.“There’s a sort of New Age chivalry about that.” Unfortunately, the rule seems even less clear for those in the LGBT community, says Morningside Heights resident and comedian Stephanie Foltz, who is bisexual.But with texting, you’ve got only her words to go on.” And even then she has more time to consider her response, giving her more control over the situation.
NEW: Sexting.● Talking dirty had one major advantage over sexting—you got to see her response.
“If you think you know the rules, some new app will come along and reinvent the rule book.” Here’s how to play the game now.
Apps such as Tinder have spoiled us for choice and made it OK to be dating multiple people at once.
It also means every night is “date night.” So the way it used to work—with time to plan what you’d wear, where you’d take her, and so on—has changed. Keep a change of clothes at work, along with some deodorizing wipes and mouthwash, because who knows what’s in store.
“Sometimes women, like men, drop their standards so they can get what they want sooner,” Kerner says.