Dating love site in cuba
Indeed, here, the term ‘men who have sex with men’ is favored over ‘homosexual’ since only a small portion of men into guy-on-guy action self-identify as gay.I always laugh a sigh when I tell a Cuban friend someone is setting off my Gaydar and they respond: ‘But he’s married! I’ve limited this diatribe to the bio-medical effects this has on health.Sure, there are protective measures everyone can and should take, but condoms, which cost pennies apiece and are sold everywhere, are as popular here as turds at the beach.And let’s face it: there are many ways to swap fluids without penetration, when a condom does you no good.It has to be – Cuban women are too empowered, strong-willed, and educated to put up with that shit.The economic dynamic here also plays a part since 57% of all technical and professional jobs are held by women, which doesn’t lend itself to the financial domination men lord over women elsewhere.Try taking and maintaining a lover just like your male partner and watch the hit the fan.The message is clearly ‘I can, but you can’t,’ coupled with ‘do as I say, not as I do.’ It’s a pitiable slice of paternalistic hypocrisy that chaps my ass. And the one-way street runs into carnal endeavors as well: while he may be hot for a threesome with another chick, if it occurs to you to suggest the same with another man.
And what the evidence reveals on this topic likely won’t be welcome news for those of you with Cuban lovers or spouses. Often, as one reader pointed out, this is a complicit arrangement – more up front and out in the open than on the side.
In short, many of the fairer sex here replicate damaging stereotypes and patterns which prop up the macho paradigm (see note 2).
Tolerating mistresses validates machismo for a simple reason: it is not a two-way street.
And trust me, this question has forced me to examine if my own moral code – faithful to a fault – is clouding my appreciation of the issue.
But after turning the critical eye to my own beliefs and how they “cuadrar” (or not) with my adopted culture, I’ve concluded there is a problem with these arrangements for two fundamental, fucked up reasons: health and machismo.