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However, I believe individuals will eventually have more control over how and when they die, including decisions of how long to be kept alive with severe dementia. Until then, I keep praying — just in case there is a higher power. I pray every single day and some days I get so angry and resentful that she is still alive, she did not make our lives happy when she was all there so to have to quit 2 jobs to take care of her and her affairs has put a bad taste in my mouth and I just want to bury her and be done with it all.I thought when my parents died I will be able to enjoy the rest of my life instead I am the POA STUCK taking care of a woman I resent and can’t stand some days and like you my Mom is 92 in good physical health but mentally GONE, she always had mental issues, I will never understand why this woman is still alive?Instead of a magical cure, I pray for an end to my mother’s life. Ironically, Mummy, as her family often calls her, is in remarkable physical health.At age 92, she takes few medications and is ambulatory.As long as I can remember my parents have been feeding, bathing, brushing teeth, dressing, and moving my grandfather from place to place. He does not recognize any of us and is only responsive to music.Long story short, he has been on the decline for a very long time.
You are not alone in having those feelings, and many people also feel “crushed” by the caregiving experience.
My mom cries constantly and lashes out at my grandfather, and the stress was so intense I think it contributed to her breast cancer diagnosis last year. I was relieved to see him comfortable in his hospital bed in a deep sleep surrounded by family because it was the way he had wanted to go, right? For at least 3 years he has been wasting away on their couch.
When I say he was comatose, I am not saying it lightly.
Before my dad showed signs of memory loss, Mummy had been the primary caregiver for her own mother who had some form of dementia.
Then, she managed the care of her brother, a lifelong bachelor, who had probable Alzheimer’s.