Together dating success
"I was much more emotionally needy than I would have been otherwise," admits Crissy.But in a way, she says, her father's illness made her approach to the relationship more stripped down.Not so with Sam—whom she agreed to make a date with after six weeks of emails and hour-long phone calls. "I thought, 'Oh my gosh, this is a real man, not just an email! Lesson learned: Keep expectations low; it can take a while to find a match.Even with a system like e Harmony, whose detailed matching process saved her from "kissing a lot of frogs," you still have to feel that chemistry.The couple met on e Harmony after a friend persuaded her to sign up, believing it was the best way for a busy single mom to meet a mate.But even though their early email matchup went smoothly, and they began dating quickly, their brand-new relationship was tested when Crissy's dad became very ill.
"A friend of mine was on it, and it was free back then, so I figured why not? There were all these things he wouldn't do, like eat after 8 p.m., and after our first date he sent all these weird emails. And we went out to eat at my favorite Japanese restaurant," says Keren.
It seemed like another way to meet people, like going to a bar." In her first three months, she met one man who seemed, by his profile, to be ideal: artistic, smart, with a career that dovetailed with Keren's (she's an interior designer), and with similar likes and dislikes. Within a couple of months, they were traveling to Atlanta to meet Peter's family.
In October 2006, they headed to City Hall to get married for the first time—repeating the nuptials in May 2007, "with a rabbi and all our family and friends." Still in Brooklyn, the couple has a 2-year-old daughter.
Tonya, 34, was a classic online-dating skeptic, but when her parents pleaded with her to try—and offered to pay for six months on e Harmony.com, she relented—though she bargained it down to three months.
"I thought, 'What the heck, it's not like I'm going to meet the love of my life!